Here Is The Reason Why Mama's Boys Don't Get Girls
Author: niks patelI recently read on a popular lifestyle website that out of every 5 guys at least one turns out to be a mama's boy. Not that I have a personal grudge against them, but most mama's boys seem to complain that they can't find a good "sensible" partner who is mature enough to see that they are not clinging to their moms but only showing respect to her (yeah, right!). In other words, they want a girl who is a fool and who doesn't respect herself enough. It is such wives of mama's boys, against whom I hold a grudge. They have no self-worth! Since the women can't really do or say much to change their mama's-boy-partners, usually the relationship turns to wreckage and they crib all their life. So who's fault is it anyway? Easy – the guys'! Here's a big wake-up call for all the guys out there – if you are married or in a long-term commitment, being a mama's boy is hurting your relationship with your partner in more ways than you'll ever realize!
But you would argue saying "I'm not a mama's boy". Sorry to burst your bubble, but most mama's boys don't realize they are one. So there is all the possibility that you are one too.
If you really love your woman and don't want to lose out on her, take help from this guide and figure out if you need to think things over.
You are self-centered: Mama's boys fit into this category perfectly simply because their mothers were always there for them. They were given what they wanted, and generally the women in the house did the things for them that they should have started doing for themselves long ago. This makes them expect the same from their wives as well. This is outright unfair! Women want partners who are sensitive to the amount of duties they already have and who would not dump extra responsibilities on them unless extremely urgent.
Fix it: A real man is independent, fair and he has a mind of his own. Your wife would love to help you out but you shouldn't have to rely on her to carry your weight.
You let your mother make the decisions: Even if it's a trifling matter like what colour should the curtains in your room be, your mother gets to decide it. Since you were never involved in decision making while growing up (getting spoon fed most of the times) you tend to push the major (and minor) decisions over to your mother. Thus making your wife feel she is not an important entity in the house.
Fix it: This doesn't have to mean that you need to make all the decisions on your own. A responsible man realizes that the best thing to do is making decisions ‘together'. If the matter is not extremely important you mother needn't be involved in the discussion altogether.
You do not support your wife: If you fail to see when and why your wife really needs your support, I hate to say this, but you are insensitive and cowardly. If your mother has always been the strong one in your family, chances are she would not let her daughter-in-law take her place once you're married. This is why your wife ‘needs' your support most of the time. There may be times when your wife is wronged by others (possibly by your mom too) but if you're a real man, you must be able to stand up for her in the face of others (yes, even if it's your own mother or father).
So unless you want your wife to walk out on you (with the children) stop and think! If you've ever been in any such situation and acted like a mama's boy, it's time to change yourself. Sit down with your wife (alone) and discuss this issue (or this article) with her. You'll be surprised at how passionately she would want to help you out. Also, be prepared for s little bit of exasperation in her voice but don't mind it all the same.
If you are the mother of a mama's boy and you're reading this. My humble request to you would be to realize that your son needs to be loved not controlled. Do not create unhealthy attachments with him and if he's about to be married then cut off the invisible umbilical cord that connected you to him all these years. You'll still be his mom and he (and his wife) will love and respect you more. Realize that it's time for him to stand with his wife and give him the room to do so.
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